Because I’ve seen it at least a hundred times, And because I’ve been this guy in the past myself. Thinking back on past dating and relationships I’ve had, I was selfish and didn’t offer much. I’m amazed the women put up with me.
But they did, all the while hoping that I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I’d change.
The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the “potential” they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them. The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever, The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn’t even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship – with ANYONE. But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking. They believed that I could become someone else with them, and that this would be easy for us both. Talk about a losing battle.
I doesn’t make a lot of “logical” sense, But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you’ll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
Mistake #2) Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot’s of women don’t even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them. But does the same apply for men’ As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don’t understand non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”. Women don’t seem to remember this about men. So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks’ Or is something else going on’